Saturday, January 26, 2013

I will wait for you.

Don't just stand there, do something vs. Don't just do something, stand there

Both statements have very strong points concerning people's spiritual walks with God.

"Don't just stand there, do something."  Many times people are at a stand still, and they don't do anything.  Not always because the don't want to but because they don't know what to do or how to do it.  They are stuck in their everyday walk or they are scared to take the first move.  Some may think that if they wait long enough God will open the door for them.  In some cases God may want you to do something and stop waiting for Him to make the first move.  He wants you to make the first move.  He wants you to choose a door and see if it is unlocked.  I once heard something that made me think twice about waiting.  Many times when people are about to make a big decision about giving their time or money they want to spend a lot of time praying about it and waiting to hear from God about what they should do.  I know that all these things are great and I'm not saying to skip out on praying before making a decision, all I am saying is why wouldn't God want you to do those things?  Why wouldn't he want you to give money to the poor, go on a mission trip, or spend your time giving to the homeless?  He loves all those things.  So do them!  I believe if we take those steps out in faith He will guide our path.  He will close the door if we are not to go down that road or He will keep all the doors unlocked and we can smoothly pass through them.

"Don't just do something, stand there"  This statement tends to be for the ones that are always doing and never stopping to hear from God.  They are busy is church, busy with life and busy to get ahead.  They are constantly doing what they think is right.  They read their bible because they are told to and it is included in their morning routine.  Along with the previous statement all these things can be good, but also may leave out some pretty amazing things.  Many times people are so busy they don't leave any time for God to move in their hearts.  Their minds are constantly running and God doesn't have any room to speak.  They may be doing all the right things, but are they connected?  Do they have the intimacy that God so longs to have with us? God may call these people to just stand there.  Just listen.  Try to hear God's voice.  Take a song and really let the words consume your soul.  God WILL speak and you WILL hear Him if you allow.

Both statements have very true points.  It all depends on where you are in your walk.  I came to this crossroad this week.  Trying to figure out what I should do.  I realized I was the first of the two.  I was waiting for something to happen, paralyzed with fear of the truth.  Did I want to find out what God had for me?  As long as it was my way right?  I prayed for answers, then I waited for answers.  I heard/ saw nothing.  I was consumed with the "what if" and never lived in the here and now.  I had to make that choice to get up and take action.  Start moving toward the doors to see if they were open or closed.  I made a choice to pursue and then I got my answer.

My journey on here has been about children.  My desire to take care of as many children as I can.  When the  miscarriages happened we turned to being foster parents and we have been licensed foster parents since this past May.  Assuming it took some time, we waited patiently.  Now we have become discouraged.  The lies creep in and haunt us.  "You aren't good enough to be foster parents"  That's not truth!  God desires us all to step out and especially step out for his children.  I decided to email a couple people that have been a part of this process with us.  I asked a couple questions concerning why we may not be getting a placement.  Both assured us that we are doing all the right things and our time will come soon.  Our licensing working shared with us that there isn't as many children in our area that are in need.  And if there is a need they are children that are older or have many siblings.  Since we have chosen to only take smaller children (0-3) our placements are very limited.  Door #1 closed for now.  I could do no more, only wait.

We decided to try going to a fertility clinic again.  Last time we were given a recommendation for a doctor it turned out they didn't accept our insurance and we would have to pay for everything out of pocket.  I don't know how much everything cost but I do know it can be pricy depending on the treatment you receive.  My doctor gave me another recommendations so I had some high hopes with this one.  I scheduled the appointment and began to process what the doctor may find out about my body.  I prayed over this after I made my appointment.  I wanted God to be in this and I didn't want to do this process if it wasn't in God's plan for us.  I made a move and I received another closed door.  We got a call from the insurance department at the doctors office and they informed us that our insurance would only cover some of the test to figure out what is going on but they wouldn't cover any procedure or medication to help me get/stay pregnant.  This had nothing to do with the office not accepting us, it was what our insurance chose to cover, and it didn't matter where we went.  I called Adam and we talked about whether we were going to continue to go into our appointment to figure out what was wrong.  We chose to cancel because in the depths of my soul I feel that God is saying "just wait, not now".  Door #2 closed for now.

We may not ever know the reason for why God does/ doesn't do things.   We have to have faith that God is doing it for our own good and for His glory.  Many of you may know that I had 30 hours of labor with Alivia that ended with an emergency c-section.  During the c-section I felt everything.  The doctors were stunned and didn't understand why I was screaming as they began to take Alivia out of my stomach.  The pain was so bad that my screaming had filled the halls of the hospital down to the room where my family was waiting for the arrival of Alivia.  I laid on the table praying for my husband and Alivia and their life together as I assumed it was my time to go be with the Lord.  My family immediately began to pray as well.  I obviously did not hear them but I was told it was bold, loud and very powerful.  A cry out to God.  I believe God spared my life that day and I am able and blessed to be with my family and raise my daughter.  I don't know this for a fact but maybe he is still sparing me by not allowing me to get pregnant?  Just a thought.  Either way I am so blessed and thankful to God for the gifts He has given me.  My life, my family and my friends.


God may/may not have kids down the road for us and if He does I will be over joyed when they come into my house.  But as for now, I choose to let go of my plans for my life and let God take over.  I choose to put my focus on the things that God wants me to do right now.  So now...I am going to listen, wait and work on pursuing an intimacy with God that I have never reached before.



Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Holding On

It has been a few months since I have posted anything on this blog.  Honestly, it has been a rough few months.  Many things going on emotionally that I (we) had to deal with before I even began to think about writing again.  Everyone has something they have to deal with, the question is are you dealing with it alone or with God?  I have had many disappointments that have come my way in the last five years but the one thing that has brought me through is walking through those hard times with God by my side.  He reminds me that I am loved, wanted, beautiful, desired, and worthy.  And as those hard times come my way and I want to wallow in the dark places and think I am not loved, unwanted, ugly, undesired and unworthy I have to force myself to hear the truth.  Over the last few months I have caught myself in those dark places and unable to get out.  Some of the lies I was allowing myself to believe is that I wasn't worth receiving any blessings from God.  That is dumb right....but I'm sure many of you have thought that at one point and time.  I "believed" that if God loved me he would give me the things I desire right now.  We know that God does want to give us the desires of our heart, so why wasn't he giving me mine?

Timing.  I talk about this a lot.  God's timing is perfect.  This is a truth.  Something I have to keep reminding myself.  Another thing that is truth is that I am worth receiving blessings and so are you! I heard a story on the radio today about a young girl who never felt beautiful because she never measured up to her tall, blonde curly hair friends.  She was short and had dark straight hair.  She wondered why God made her this way and thought the same lies many of us think.  Later in life God called her to be a missionary in China.  People in China are a lot smaller than people in the US and have darker hair.  Now, doesn't it make sense to why God made her exactly how did?  So she would fit in where people need to hear the word of God.  He has a purpose and a plan for EVERYTHING he does...even down to your looks!

A few days ago, very close friends of ours arrived in China to pick up their beautiful daughter Sophie after years of waiting for her.  I can't speak for them but I can say from what I have heard from them and experienced by hanging out with them, this was not an easy process.  There were many moments when they thought...WHAT?!?!....they didn't understand what God was up to.  But all those twist and turns and surprises brought them to a little girl that needed them, exactly them.  They are going to make great parents and I am so excited for them.  They were able to finally see Gods plan in all the waiting.

I am in the spot of waiting...still.  I may not know why Adam and I are waiting right now.  I may take everything personal and think it is because I am not good enough or I do not deserve getting pregnant or have a placement.  I cry with joy & sadness whenever someone tells me they are pregnant or they received a placement because I wonder when it is my turn again.  Its not that I need a baby or a placement, its just that I need answers and I want to move on if the answers aren't my own.  These are lies that are creeping into my thoughts.  What I need is God's truths.  If I focus on the truths the lies will slip away.  Just like the two stories I shared, God has perfect timing for everything that is happening.  I may not understand why I still have a crib set up in our spare room or why I am saving all of Alivia's clothes, but I do know that I am doing it for a reason.  I am doing everything for a reason.  God created us perfectly and his plan is perfect.  And I don't need anything but God and his plan for my life.  I am (you are) worth the waiting because it is going to bring forth God's glory!

Our friends in China with Sophie on Gotcha Day!